When my oldest daughter was five years old and just a little peanut, she looked at me with her big brown eyes and said, "I want to go to the Olympics!"
I've had many people ask me, "How do you do it? How do you get ALL your kids to have such big dreams? How do you get them to want to go to practice without complaining? How do you get them to clean their rooms, do schoolwork, and help around the house without dealing with moaning and groaning? How do you get your kids to work together, support, and love each other without being jealous of one another?
I can't answer all those questions in just one blog. It takes a ton of hard work, sacrifice, and dedication. However, here is one bit of advice that I would like to share with anyone who wants more than just average for his or her children. It begins with you and who you are as a parent! Who do you surround yourself with? Are you growing, and what kind of role model are you being to your kids? What are your values and morals? If you can't see a bigger vision for your life, how are you going to see one for your children?
It begins with baby steps, allowing God to work in and through you. It begins by making changes in your home. It begins with the words you speak to yourself, your family, and the people around you. I'm all for dreaming big, BUT priorities have to be in line, and you must know who and what is most important. The biggest mistake I've seen people make in going after the "dream" is leaving their family behind. That is just stupid. The biggest dream should be family, and doing life together. If you are trying to find your purpose or help your child find theirs, know this, it's not about finding your one purpose because there isn't just one. It's about living everyday with purpose. This is not easy, but when your kids see you become alive in all you do, they will inmate you!
Years ago, when my daughter shared her dreams, I could have crushed them, and then who knows what she or my other three kids would be doing today. Instead, we spoke life, and gave her the opportunity to do her thing. Yes, we are so excited for her because we see her dreams becoming a reality. But, most importantly, it's not WHAT SHE IS DOING, BUT WHO SHE IS BECOMING. I can say that proudly about ALL FOUR OF OUR KIDS. All the glory goes to God!