Thursday, February 28, 2013

One Way to show your Husband Respect

Mark has been gone for the past few days on a business trip.  The last few days have been extra busy for me at home! You can only imagine four kids from ages 12 all the way to two years old.  Homeschooling while still potty training, running the kids to activities, doctor appointment and making dinner every night and then there is the bedtime!!!  I'm exhausted by just writing and thinking about all of this!!!  So, you can imagine why I can't wait until he gets home. I can't wait just to have some adult conversation!  However,  I've missed him but not for selfish reasons.  I'm not just looking forward to him getting home  so he can help me with the kids.  I'm excited for him to get home because I just want to hug him, hear about his conference and just spend time with him!

Years ago, it would of been reversed.  I would of been angry at him because he had time by himself.  He would of walked in the door and I would of had a laundry list of duties he needed to do because I felt he owed me something. He doesn't owe me anything.   If I did something for him, I would be expecting something back in return. My love was self seeking and not unconditional.

Thankfully, we both have changed.  Mark loves me and  works so hard to provide for our family.  When Mark is home, he is connected and fully present with the kids and me. 

In order for marriage to thrive, we need to take the focus off ourselves and learn how to RESPECT our husband and bring peace into our homes.  When Mark walks through those doors, I want him to want to see us not run the other way.

Dinner is waiting for him, house is cleaned and you won't hear this wife barking at him when he walks through those doors. 

Saturday, February 2, 2013

What are you speaking to your children?

Do we as parents speak life or death over our children?  Do focus on what they can't do or what they can do?  Do we as parents show our children through our attitude and actions that life has a greater purpose for us all?  Do we show them by example that yes life is Hard but we don't give up?  Are we showing our kids to have an entitlement attitude by what we expect or think we deserve to have or are we teaching our kids with faith and  hard work anything is possible?  Are we teaching are kids  to be self-centered and it's all about me or are we teaching our kids how to put other people first, sacrifice, love, forgiveness, patience, commitment, serving others, and that life isn't fair, to deal and make something out of what God has given them?  Do we hold our kids in fear by our owns insecurities and fears?  Are we truly allowing them to see and be all God created them to be?

Mark and I don't think we are world's greatest parents because we are not.  You may even get sick of hearing me say this or write this, but I really don't care!  It's only because of the forgiveness, grace and mercy of our lord Jesus Christ that has helped teach us how to become Godly parents.  Do we screw up?  Yes, every day!!! We tell our kids all the time that we are not perfect.  The only one they can truly depend on is God and to know who they are in HIM.

My son was told he has dyspraxia when he was 18 months old.  Yes, life hasn't always been easy for Markus and he has his own struggles. We have cried many nights for our son because the love we have for him. We know how mean the world can be.  However, at 10 years old, he sees life with possibilities and opportunities!  He has big dreams and goals for his life.  He recognizes that life is going to require hard work!  Best of all he has a faith and love for  God that is So BIG!   But when were told by doctors what he couldn't do, we choose tolook at God  see what he can do!!!

We are seeing the seeds that has been planted in Markus growing into a beautiful, magnificent, strong tree with plenty of fruit!  We know it has nothing to do with us, but God who has chosen to use us of for His Glory!!! 

we pray and seek the guidance of God everyday and hope we set the example our kids want to follow. If you want change in your life,  begin to speak life into yourself, your marriage, your children and your life and then take action!  Take my boy as an example, don't focus on what you can't do but what you can do and the purpose God has placed on your life.  Remember, our kids are watching and listening to our every move.  Love this quote I heard a few years ago, "your kids want to be who you are, so be who YOU want THEM to be."

Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. -proverbs 18:21

Friday, February 1, 2013

Focus on the possible not the impossible!

“We fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen.  For what is seen is temporary but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthian 4:18

Maybe you are wondering how something in your life is going to come to pass? Maybe there is something in your life that is causing you to be stricken with fear, worry or anxiety.  Whatever you are dealing with God is saying, “We fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary but what is unseen is eternal.”   
God reminded me last night as Mark and I were praying and sharing our God time together of all the blessings small and big in our life (some that we had forgotten about). How we have gotten where we are today.  It was by having faith, working hard by not looking at the impossible but the possible!  He reminded me when doctors, friends and family members focused on the negative and not the positive. What happened in our lives when we chose not to believe them , the  world but to believe in God himself.

this might sound to simple to you.  However, all you need is a little faith in Christ and allow him to work in and through you.  You may be in the darkest moment of your life but if you focus on God, His word and never give up,  He wil show you how  ALL things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. –Romans 8:28

Your life and my life have a purpose.  We are keeping our eyes on Christ and not on the things in this world that tries to distract us from our greater life!  We refuse to believe in the lies.  If God could transform our life when we just had a little faith, I can’t wait to see what he does now as we have given our whole heart to serving and loving the Lord!!!

Today, don’t focus on the impossible but the possible!!!

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