Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Abortion. Is it wrong?

6 years ago, I was pro-choice.  The idea of someone telling me women  what they couldn't do with their own bodies, drove me crazy.  Personally, I wouldn't have an abortion myself but  my thoughts were women were going to do in anyway so why not provide a safe place for these procedures instead of some dark dirty alley. I would argue with all my pro-life friends and so arrogantly think I was right and how disconnected they were from reality. My skin would crawl when I would see people holding pro-life signs or the crosses lined up in front of a church representing how many un born babies died due to abortion.  It made me angry.  Pro-choice friends, I understand where you are coming from because I use to think the same way.  I would scream, " you are judging. You have know idea what that women is going through." ( Nobody knows what that women has or is going through.  But God does and turning to him is the only answer.  Having an abortion is not the answer. It may seem like it at the moment but  this will only bring more destruction to somenoe's life.) However, It was I who was being mislead and diseived.  (There are pro-life advocates who do not demonstrate Christ love when talking or standing up on this issue.  How those people choice react to pro-choice advocates I do not support. They allow their emotions take control, which I  know I can do at times to.  We are to stand firm on the word of God but do so in Love.)

Funny, how God can take someone who is willing to give their heart, mind and soul to him, and break it completely for what breaks his.  Every election I voted for Democrats and it never crossed my mind if they were pro-choice.  To think I voted for Obama last election!  CRAZY I know!!! ( I have learned to vote not base on Democrat or Republican but who supports issues that are in line with  God and Scripture.) So, as you read this blog, you can't call me racist or any other hateful names because anyone that knows me  knows how much I love people no matter the sex, race or religion.  However, I LOVE JESUS and listen to what He says not any friend, politician or pastor.  We have become so selfish in the way we think and live our lives.  We think it's all about us and how we want to live are life.  Society may say they love or believe in God but it's a God that they have created in their own minds, not the God of the Bible and the one who created the universe.  Everyone loves God as long as it does not interfere with their life or have to make changes within themselves.  Society wants God to serve us not we serve God. The minute God begins to convict us, we shut him out and run the other way.  Just think if your kids did that everytime you were trying to lovingly discipline them...How would that make you feel? 

What do you think God says about abortion?  Remember, not you nor me but God?  Do we care?  We should.  The world calls on God in great despair wanting Him to help heal their life, but then issues that God deeply cares about we disregard and pretty much laugh in his face.  Our country and many families lives have been affected by abortion.  ( If you have had an abortion or helped someone make the choice to have one, or given one and  asked Jesus to forgive you, he has.  He loves you and it's been forgotten.  Many people still hold on to it not forgiving themselves and in turn have sabotaged their own lives.  It shows up in their relationships, finances, in every part of their life and they way they feel about themselves. Not realizing it's the sin that is separating you from God and all his goodness.  You do not need to live in bodange anymore. Once they seek Jesus it sets them free!  The curse has been broken.)  Until we step up and change our ways, we should not be surprised by all the destruction going on in our own country.  I could give countless stories and statistics to support pro-life.  Do I really need to?  All we have to do is sit down, seek God, put our own thoughts and pride to the side and ask God.  I know you will be surprised to find the answer. 

Abortion is wrong. I'm not being judmental.  It's the killing of innocent blood.  God has a purpose for every baby that is conceived in the womb.  It's not up to us to decide whether or not a baby should live or die.  God can take a horrible situation and make something beautiful with it.  We need to stop playing God.  We need to stop making trying to fool ourselves on why abortion is OK just to make ourselves feel better.  Yes, I know bad things happen and babies are born in horrific situations and that  sucks!  Again, it's not about you or me.  It's about God. We are not the judge nor can decide who should die and who should live.  He care for everyone even and the precious baby growing inside the mothers womb...

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.

—Jeremiah 1:5

For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mothers womb... Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be.

—Psalm 139:13, 16

For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mothers womb... Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be.

—Psalm 139:13, 16

I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live

—Deuteronomy 30:

if you are considering an abortion, I urge you to seek help.  If you have had an abortion, God has forgiven you.  You can take your situation and use it for the Glory of God and help other women not make the same mistake as you. 

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Home School Jitters

As school is approaching I wanted to share with you my first day of homeschooling 4 years ago!  

 My children were  use to being in the public school, for the past 4 years, so even though we were so excited to start our new adventure there was uncertainty.  The closer the first day of school came the more doubt I began to have.  All the excitement of buying new school clothes, school supplies (which we still buy), back packs, lunch boxes, talking with other mom's about what teacher their child had and who was going to be in their class, I was beginning to miss.  
I wasn't part of the those conversations.  I began to feel all alone. I met a few people who home educated, but I was not close to them.  

So when the first day of school came and the smell of fall was in the air.  It brought so many first day of school memories of my childhood.  I looked out my window  all the neighbor hood kids were walking to school, the buses driving down the street and all the mom's crying as their kids began kindergarten, I thought what in the heck was I doing.

But then my kids climbed out of bed!  They looked at me with all kinds of excitement.  We ran downstairs to begin our first day and at first all we did was laugh!  

You may have those feelings this year as you begin your new journey.  You may have doubt, feel lonely or think you are wrecking your child's life.  I just want to encourage you that those first few days of  public school get old real fast!  
We may not be part of all the hoopla those first few days but I will tell you I have witnessed first hand of all the blessings of not being part of the world!  It will not be easy, but my friend it is a journey that will never be in vain nor will there be any regret.  Don't look at what your child will be missing because there isn't much just look ahead of all they will gain!  

"These commandments that I give you today are to upon your heats.  Impress them on your children.  Talk about the when you sit at home and when you walk along the road,when you lie down and when you get up." Deuteronomy 6:6-8

Thursday, August 16, 2012

What I do to Kick start our morning!

Are you looking for some ideas or motivation to get your day started?  After God revealing my husband's health and the importance of me leading my family to eating and living a healthier life style.  I began to buckle down.  I needed to invest in learning, making better choices and putting them into action.  Not only for me but for my entire family. If wouldn't do it, then my whole family would suffer.

Here is a few things, I do to help my family. If you have any ideas to add, I would love to hear them. I'm always looking for ways to grow and improve. I hesitate to write about how I live and things I do, because I'm not bragging nor do I think I know it all!  I write for God.  So, if this helps you great and if doesn't thanks for visiting my blog anyways!

  • I get up early before everyone else gets up. 
  •  I walk in the morning to get some exercise and when my 2 year old coroperates and doesn't get up a ton of times in the middle of the night and sleeps in like she is suppose to, , then instead of walking I work out. However, the work out  does happen every morning!
  •  I find time with God and my Bible, which is my favorite time of the day! If mornings are not your thing, then find time at night, work out and get everything ready before bed!  Mornings are hard for me.  I stay up late and spend time with Mark but I know for me getting up early, is something I need to do.  It's something that has come with time!
  •  There Nothing is written in stone. as one of my mentors taught me b flexible, versitle and adaptable.   When things change or don't go the way planned you have to be able to go with it!  It will save you from getting in a bad move!  I have this saying embedded in my kids mind!!!
  • Then I make a smoothie filled with everything we need to get our day going.  Fruit, vegetables( try to have them all organic but it doesn't always work out that way), yogurt ( the kind from Calder's) and some kind of protein.  This way, I know my kids and husband are getting what is most important in their bodies.
  •  With the smoothie, we'll have healthy organic cereal.  If not organic, as healthy as we can get!  Sometimes, we'll have eggs, oatmeal or pancakes.  Normally, it's simple.  A smoothie , cereal and all of our vitamins.  We keep things very simple in the watt house.  It's easy to do and clean up and now we are ready for our day!    
  •  By eating this way and having our vitamins ( becareful not all vitamins are good for your research.  I make sure the kids get their whole food multi vitamins, vitamin D3, and their omegas)   helps stop any cravings during the day and I don't find and I don't want to snack!
  • I try to make my husband his lunch every morning.  He'll make his lunch sometimes, but for the most part, I get up make it knowing then he is eating something healthy and not stopping off and eating fast foods.  Plus it saves us money!

I find when we eat healthy, everyone is in a much better mood!  I know when I get my time with God, eating right and exercise, I'm ready for the day!  I don't do any of this to try to be the best mom, wife or to be perfect because I'm not.  I do it because it's what God expects from me.  Because everything we do including the small things matter to God.  I do it for God.  He is my motivation and my love for my family. How we do anything is how we do everything!

Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well."  3 John 1:2

 I know deep in my heart that by being obedient to God and taking care of my family, will produce awesome fruit!  It's going to take time and I may not see it over night but all the hard work is going to pay off! When we start off our day on the right foot, then we are ready to face whatever comes our way including babyfits!!!

"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." 1 Corinthians 10:31

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

It was one of those mornings!

Today, sure didn't start the way I wanted it to!  My youngest daughter, who just turned 2, woke up at 7am crying and didn't stop until 11:30am!  It just was one of those mornings.  I'm weaning her from nursing and she is not one happy toddler!  The more she cried, everything I wanted to get done, started piling up in my mind.  The more this happened the crankier I was feeling inside.  My list was becoming bigger and bigger and nothing was getting done.  My husband was on his way home,  So, I called him to and  warned him I was irritable and not to mess with me when he gets home!!!  Isn't it funny, when we start feeling upset with ourselves, we look to take it out on someone else. All of a sudden, I was getting mad at him and he wasn't even home!!

Thankfully, I have an awesome husband.  Not perfect by any means but someone who loves me, God and wants to be the leader of this family God has called him to be.  When he came home, he asked me why I was so grouchy?  I told him, it was best if I kept my mouth shut because it would just make things worse! He  laughed and said, well do you want to same something to me?  I said, "well of course I do!"  Then he said do you want to flick me in the head!"  I said not flick but maybe punch you a few times!"  

He grabbed the bible and said, "let's read where we left off the other night."  I sure didn't want to at that time.   I seriously was still thinking about how good it would feel to punch him!  As we prayed and began to read God's word, the tension began to fall off of me and my spirit began to feel at peace again.  As we were sitting out in our back yard reading, mark looked at me and said, This is life kim.  We are reading God's word, enjoying the beauty in the back yard and watching our kids play on our neighbors swing set!  ( thankful we didn't have to buy one!!!)  

The list and the baby fits didn't seem important and that big of a deal anymore!   

 Therefore,  my dear brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the Lord's work, knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in Vain.  

We have days that don't go the way planned or we just want to throw our hands up or just cry because we just feel that there is so much to do or are we doing anything right.  God being so awesome gives us his word to remind us to keep moving and  the baby fits, messy house or the never ending list, is all worth it because everything we do is for the Lord!  

Monday, August 13, 2012

It's Time to Put on Your Shoes and Take Care of You!

Carting the kids from place to place, having their friends over, grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, you know the deal, can be exhausting!  This is just to name a few things on a mom's plate.  There is so much more that we do that we often forget or either that decide to throw the towel in on taking care of ourselves.

Why do our hair, makeup and put on cute clothes and for that matter cute shoes?  What's the point?  By the end of the evening there are many nights I look like a train just ran me over!  My mascara is smeared under my eyes, my hair is looking crazy and food stains are all over my shirt. 

It's easy at least for me to get in a rut and forget about taking care of myself.  It takes effort and when our focus is on our family and kids we tend to our put needs to the side.  But God didn't not create you or me to feel like a torn up dish cloth nor does he want us to look like one either.  It's important for us to take time with God, reading his Word, eating the right foods, exercise and yes putting on makeup and putting on outfits that helps us feel better about ourselves.  I know when I get up start my day with God and take care of myself my days feel more productive and I just feel good about me,being a mom and being a positive influence on my children..  But when I don't start my day with God and just let myself Go, it changes everything.  

God did not create us to put a bag over our head and hide the beauty he created.  He loves you and you are his masterpiece.  It's not about getting up and taking care of yourself to please the world or for any selfish reasons.  It's to Glorify God.  Seriously, grouchy, moody, tired and frumpy people are not the best witnesses of Christ.  You don't have to spend tons of money on clothes. It's your additude you have toward God and yourself that make you beautiful.  It's doing the best with what God gave you and being grateful for it!

Honestly,I felt myself starting to let myself get a little sloppy.  We are on a budget. We have four kids and I'm a stay at home mom.  We don't have the extra money for me to go out and spend tons of money on the latest styles ( nor would I want to anyways.  We want to be wise with the   money GOD gave us  and how we use spend it so my kids can also see it's not spending all your money on material possessions. Plus, there are millions of people around the world that don't have clothes or even a pair of shoes to ware. So, this conversation isn't even an option for them.  So, I'm extreamly grateful for God's grace and mercy and what he has given me.) I have a friend that I just love and admire. She came over my house one day wearing the cutest high heels.  We weren't going anywhere but letting the kids swim in my backyard.  She looked great and you knew she felt great about herself. She inspired me to get my cute shoes back on and I do not have to let myself go just because I'm a  Christian and a busy mom! For that same reason is why I should take the time to make myself look and feel better because I love God, my family and all the blessings He has given me.

Ladies, take time for you!  When you get up early, put on your makeup, get dressed and wear a cute pair of shoes know matter if you are wiping butts all day or carpooling it will help change your day!  When your kids have a tantrum in the store you can look around at all the other mom's and say at least I have my shoes!!!  

Have an awesome day today!  Always remember

" For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago." Ephesians 2:10

Friday, August 10, 2012

Why We Joined our FB Page Together

Mark recently received his real estate licenses.  He still works full time but was looking to make extra money but also wanted to help others and learn more about this industry for our his own personal reasons.Plus, lets be honest, we have four active kids!  We needed a way to make some extra income.  Joining my dad's company was the perfect answer.  He needed to get the word out and of course he said let's open up his face book page.

At first I had some hesitation, because I knew I would be doing most of the FB for him and I didn't want to get sucked in to it again! FB can be a great tool, but it also can be used to for gossip, hurting others and other selfish reasons.  So, before getting back on FB I prayed. I take everything to God it doesn't matter how big or small, I want His direction for my life.  I wanted to make sure my heart was right and I was getting on FB for the right reasons.  I do not want to get preconceived ideas about other people based on their post. I want to continue to love others for who they are and not have any expectations.  I didn't want to have a prideful spirit nor did I want this to be all about us and trying to brag or make our life look like it's perfect because it's not.   I didn't need to get on FB trying to make a fake allusion about my life, care about the opinions of others or try to see how many people will like my status!

I didn't feel God leading me to stay off FB, but I did feel him want Mark and I to have one FB account together.  If you are reading this and are not on my FB account, we decided to have both of our names on the account.  Not because Mark is trying to control me or vice versa or because we had any problems in the past being on FB, but because everything we do we do together.  There isn't anything I don't know about Mark and he knows everything about me.  We know many people who have fallen into the temptation with social media and have hurt or destroyed their marriage.  They have viewed things they shouldn't of or chatted with old flames or found someone new to have conversations with instead of their spouse, which only leads to disaster.  Mark and I are human just like everyone else.  It only takes something so small to begin to lead you away from the heart of God and all his blessings.  The enemy likes to disguise himself as good just to get the door open.  Mark and I work together to keep those doors shut. 

"The thief comes only to steal and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." John 10:10

Now, we are not suggesting everyone close their FB page and open one up with their spouse!  This is what God placed on our heart and we want to be authentic and what you see on FB is what you see in the real world.  Not perfection but a love for each other, for others and for our God!  

No matter what your reasons are for being on FB, if you truly love God and your spouse, protect your mind and conversations.  If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse then you shouldn't be doing it don't let those doors creep open which will only lead to disaster...

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.  And God is faithful' he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." 1 Corinthians 10-13

Saturday, August 4, 2012

My Son said, "Christians sure know how to party!"

Christians sure know how to party was music to my ears as my son was whispering those words in my ears!   God has brought some amazing families in our life and when we get together it is just one big PARTY!  Everytime we all get together it's all all day and night affair!  On a couple of occasions our kids were begging to go home because they were so tired!  It was almost time for breakfeast the following morning and to be honest we could of kept hanging out, but Mark had to get up for work the next day.

The crazy thing is there was no drinking of alchol beverages, no crazy drinking games, no gambling, no swearing, obscene music that kids really shouldn't be listening to or movies that would corrupt our brains!  What in the heck did we do and how could this be a party is what you may be asking?  Trust me years ago this was not my idea of having fun! 

When we get together with our friends, we play games, joke around, laugh so much my stomach hurts, enourage each other, talk about dreams or struggles we may have and just really get to know each other. The kids run around like wild maniacs!  Playing games, eating candy, swimming, and just being kids!  The most beautiful part is that my kids are seeing their parents having FUN without beer or wine!  They see their parents acting silly but not because we are intoxicated and never see witness their mom and dad unable to get out of bed the next morning due to a hangover. 

I'm not writing this claming mark, our friends or myself are perfect because ask anyone of us and we will openly tell you how screwed up we are.  However, God has just opened our eyes and showed us what FUN really means.  Also, by being the LIVNG example for our kids they to have learned that fun doesn't have to include what the world believes fun may look like. 

I'm not condoning drinking adult beverages.  God doesn't say you can't enjoy a glass of beer or wine but the Bible does talk about drunkeness. Mark and I both have had negative experiences and it caused major pain in our marriage. We choose not to drink and not only do we make those choices because we love each other but because we adore our chidren.  We want so much more for their lives!

We trust and believe in the scripture, "Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not run from it." Provers 22:6. 

Will it be an easy road raising our kids to live for God? NOPE but it will be worth it and as long as Mark and I LIVE and BREATH what we teach than I have no doubts they will go out and serve the LORD in amazing ways and always knowing that Christians ( most of them not all!) sure know how to party!!!

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