In my humble opinion, one of the aches of our human heart is the longing and wanting to be accepted. We crave to feel loved, appreciated and forgiven by the people we love and respect. For some people that craving may be disguised to look like a stone wall filled with anger and unforgiveness and a lack of feeling. They act as if they don't care but deep down inside there is a wounded heart wanting to be seen. We are blinded or in denial if we reject the idea and act as if someone's opinions never affected you or that we don't care if someone likes us or not. This is where the heart begins to harden. People want to be loved and noticed. If this was not true, social media would not be so popular. We create a world to see how many friends we can have and how many likes we can get on a comment we post. We have grown adults having our self worth depending on tangible things that bring only satisfaction for a moment hoping that someone will recognize us. Realizing that those hungers of being noticed and accepted are still left empty.
We yearn for someone to see us not for who we are but for who we strive to be. We want them to see beyond our mistakes. The beauty and uniqueness that is buried deep in our soul. You know it's there even if have given up on life or relationships. If someone else could just recognize it for a brief moment than maybe you could come alive again, start over or be the person you dreamed of becoming. Maybe your relatinships could be healed if someone would just rescue you. Maybe for just a moment if someone just took the time to notice you that empty whole could be filled, even it's just for a season.
For years, I struggled with wanting the approval of the world. Chasing after the wind and never being content on who or where I was not realizing I wanted to be rescued. Still to this day I can find myself creeping back into those chains. But as soon as they begin to wrap around my ankles, Christ Love convicts me and reminds me,
"Christ has liberated us to be free. Stand firm and don't submit again to a yoke of slavery." Galatians 5:1
Yes, we all would like to hear nice job, your special or even I love you. But we can't go searching or expecting it. Because then our focus becomes on man not on Christ.
"For am I know trying to win the favor of people or God? or am I still striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a slave to Christ." Galatians 1:10
If we run after Christ and give others out of the Love and approval we have in Him, it will stop us from wanting or longing for others to fill us up. It takes the focus off of us and on Christ.
God shows no favoritism. He loves us all the same. The question is do you love him? His heart is craving yours and when you give it to him, trust him and follow him every ounce of your being will be content in Him.
The journey will not be easy but your appetite will be for only him and no longer the worlds.