Did we love each other when we said " I do"?

I’ll never forget sitting in a choir class in the 12^th grade (I have known idea why I was in a choir class.  I’m the worse singer ever!!!)  I looked at two of my friends and said, “I know I’m going to Marry Mark Watt.” 

Sure enough five years later, I was walking down the aisle to say I do to a young man I had so much passion for! 

“Now wait a minute,” you are probably thinking.   “Why didn’t you say in love?”  To answer your question, looking back now and knowing what we know, we were not in love with each other.  Actually, we really had no clue on what love really looks like or how to do it successfully until God really grabbed onto our hearts.

God knew what he was doing.  He took the passion we had for each other to bring us closer to Him.  Love is not a feeling it’s an action.  Mark and I made many mistakes before and during our marriage.  We were carrying around so much baggage we didn’t know what to do with it or how to forgive each other.   Years later, we came to the point where we could have just buried it and acted like most 98 percent of marriages and gone through the motions just doing enough to get by, end our relationship with divorce or allow God to do His work.  Thankfully, we allowed Him to do His thing!!!  What a work He has done!!!

If I could offer just two words of wisdom for anyone struggling in their marriage, forgiveness is key in order to have a healthy marriage with an awesome sex life!   It’s not always easy but with God, it’s possible.  For all the young girls out there, DON’T RUSH INTO DATING!  This may sound old fashion but just don’t have sex with anyone.  Wait for marriage.  If you ask people who are honest about themselves they will tell you the implications, hurt and baggage that comes with giving yourself to just anyone.  You may think you are ready or everything in you says go for it but until that man can commit himself to you and love you the way God wants a man to love His wife, it’s just not worth it.  Trust me!  Mark and I had to learn the hard way….

You may be like me 20 years ago and have the HOTS for someone and nothing can keep your mind off of him.  I would say, seek God first.  Know who you are in Him because no matter what you are feeling at this moment, a man will NEVER complete you, even after 15 years of marriage.   The only one will is  Christ!  

For more information about Kim Watt or if you would like her to speak at your next event, please visit her website at www.kimwatt.weebly.com or email markwatt75@gmail.com

When we ask how?

I don’t know about you, but there are times I think really God.  Is this really what you want us to do?  How in the heck is this going to happen?  I want to know details and want it right now!!!  God in all his goodness speaks to my heart.  He shows me of where I started and how far He has brought me.  He shows me all the areas in my life  where I have trusted him and just took baby steps along the way.  He flashes images in my mind of where we’ve gone and what we have had done this far.  He reminds me when people laughed and said it was not possible but how He shouted stop listening to them and follow me and the blessings that have come when we are obedient to Him.  He brings the laughter of my children and the smile of my husband to never forget about the fun and joy He has brought into our life.

As I look out my window as the sun is beginning to rise and listen to the birds chirping in the sky, I say back to him, “I’m so sorry God.  Please don’t let me try to make things happen on my time, allow me to enjoy the journey and the blessings right in front of my face.  Allow me to continue to see the bigger picture and giving me the faith and courage to continue moving forward.  Thank you God for reminding me to have a childlike faith and not needing to know all the answers.   Thank you for renewing my spirit each and every day.  Thank you for calling me by name, loving me the way you do and allowing you to do your work in me.

Today, you may look at your life and think how.  God looks at you and says, “Me.”  He wants us to keep the bigger picture in mind, trust Him along the way and enjoy and be purposeful today.  The how is not important it is only Him that is…Tomorrow is never a guarantee we have only today!

When much is given than much more is Required

People have asked me through the years, How do you do it?  How do you home school, drive all the kids everywhere, maintain the house, cook dinner ( even though it might not look or test the best) and still have it going on with your husband?   Some people wonder why I'm not stressed out and crabby?

Here is why.  Twelve years ago, when Mark and I became parents for the first time, we decided we were going to sacrifice our own needs and wants so I could be a stay at home mom.  This is what God wanted from me.  To dedicate my life as their mom and pour into the children he brought into our life.  This looks different for everyone.  The sacrifices we made then are beginning to pay off now.  God has been working on me, growing me and allowing me to see such a bigger picture for our family.  He has given us the opportunity for me to stay at home and home educate. This is a huge responsibility, which I don't take lightly.  When he gives you much than much is required.  When he opens up doors, we can either make excuses why it can't work or trust him.  When you do take the risk and stop listening to the negative voices around you, opportunity comes in all kinds of sizes.

When your life is God lead, doesn't mean it will be easy  but if you take the risk and open up your heart and mind, things work out. You continue to go where he wants you to go until He changes the direction.   It's up to you on how are you going to look at your life and what is handed to you.  Yes, being a mother to four kids at times can be challenging but I refuse to cast my problem on my children.  Jesus says, "give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
 When I do, he reminds be to keep going even when it's hard.

God and the love for our marriage and our children are the motivation behind what my husband and I do.  Yes, we can have crazy days but it's a good crazy.  But it all works out!  We still eat as a family, spend lots of family time together, the kids take care of the home  are respectful, grateful and love the Lord.  How could I not want to do what I do.  At the end of the day, our hope is that they see a bigger vision of God and our lives point to Him. 

The reason I'm not stressed is because my life is being lead by God.  If you are living a life for Him don't let anyone tell you different or take your joy away! Pouring into your marriage and children is and should always be your first ministry. 

Ghetto Ministries

Ghetto Ministries

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Disclaimer:  If this name offends someone, please stop reading this blog!  This is not for you!!! I know there will be some Christian who will have their pants in a bunch or be offended because I said ghetto ministries. 

Definition of Ghetto:  it's a part of a city in which members of a minority group live, especially because of social, legal or economic pressure.  The term was originally used in Venice to describe the part of a city to which Jews restricted and segregated. 

Who would Ghetto Ministries’ include? Anyone who feels like they just don't belong.    It would be for anyone looking to grow closer to God or for someone who is far from the heart of God.  It would be for someone with their heart in the right place but always makes mistakes and either says or does  the wrong thing!  It would be for anyone who can laugh at themselves and shortcomings know they are not perfect and doesn't try to be.  For someone who know matter how hard she tries she just can't be sophisticated and can never measure up to other peoples expectations.     For someone who just wants to be real, talk about real life issues and dig deeper into their own personal lives, laugh, cry and support each other with their dreams.  For someone who is tired of playing church, talking the churchy language and living a life trying to please people!  It would be for any ordinary person who knows they were born for something extraordinary but just needs a little help getting there.  For someone who loves Christ and just wants to live a life pleasing Him and nobody else!

Maybe I have lost my mind! But, I know there are people out there that fit this description and if this is you, hang on tight because God has something big in store!!! I’m just messing around with the name ghetto, even though I seriously like it! He has been stirring something inside of me for years.  I’m feeling like it’s just about time to step out and step it up!! If you are ready to be real, get real, grow closer to Christ and live a life everyday on purpose, then I look forward to learning and growing with you.  I'm not really sure how it's all going to unfold but I do know this ministry will definitely  be for you!!!

I know I'm so ghetto!  This speaking ministry will be to help those Christian and  who feel like they are restricted and segregated to step out and be free!  For the non-believer to  be real, learn more and fall head over heals in love with Christ.

Please pray for me as I listen to God as I put my everyday ghetto lesson and conference calls together! 

Bringing Light to the Matter will be where I share, talk and discuss much deeper issues!